I just think it's very interesting that you seem to be describing bringing up your children to believe that everything that isn't what you consider "normal" is wrong. In my mind all that is doing is perpetuating the cycle of intolerance.
On the other hand, it's a completely different scenario to bring up children to respect that there are people who don't necessarily fit with what your family considers to be "normal", but it's OK because it's their life, and that's how they choose to live it (its just not for you or your family).
I guess my point is that it's all well and good to dictate what is "normal" and "good" for your own family, but to teach others that anything different is "wrong" is intolerance, and isn't something that I could personally agree with. Forbidding your children from visiting the children of gay parents, as you've alluded to, seems a little bit sad to me.
So you saying being gay is the norm? If not, what is it? If that was the case I would agree with you. Cant make it much more simple than to just put it down bluntly. If thats my opinion or not it does not really matter. Being gay is not the norm.
I teach my kids not to swear at home and to show respect, have good manners etc. It seems that its the norm for kiwi kids to swear and show disrespect for their parents. Is that being intolerable? or dictating?
Anti social behaviour among our children also seems to be the norm in NZ. In the same way as I won't let my kids go for a sleepover at parents that allow this sort of behaviour, its the same with gay couples. If I don't believe in their family values, or lack of them, I'm not going to allow my kids to be part of it. Its part of being a good parent and all part of a good healthy upbringing for the kids. Very different to how most parents in NZ seem to operate. No surprises why so many children in this country end up the way they do. No guidance what's so ever.
Anyway, think I have gone way off topic now and apologies for that. I'm unsubscribing from this thread as we just going around in circles.