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#2765354 23-Aug-2021 12:18

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I love doing Lego and we have quite a bit here. My wife has been doing the Harry Potter series and I have recently done the Apollo 11 Moon Lander. I want to get the ISS and the new 2021 Space Shuttle. I have grabbed one of our 1000 piece WASGIJ jigsaw puzzles to do

Toyco.co.nz are shipping essential items. Interestingly, some Lego sets are considered as essential items. The Space Shuttle is one of those sets

https://www.toyco.co.nz/toys/lego/lego-creator-expert/lego-10283-nasa-space-shuttle-discovery-5702016914061

Must resist, must resist. I think I will hide my debit card where I don't know where it is.

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#2766178 24-Aug-2021 20:25

I removed Facebook from my devices and logged out on my browser. Hopefully I can go cold turkey and shut down my account. There is so much lunacy on there.

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#2766179 24-Aug-2021 20:30

Handle9:

I removed Facebook from my devices and logged out on my browser. Hopefully I can go cold turkey and shut down my account. There is so much lunacy on there.

But where will you find the truth regarding the vaccines, Chemtrails, 5G or Lizard people, Aunty Mary's Bunions or Uncle Freds Haemorrhoids?

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#2766183 24-Aug-2021 20:43

I think brain frog is getting to me. Three days back I overdosed on one of my medications by accident. This was a serious lapse that could have been fatal and shows one must always be up with the game when dealing with drugs. I think anxiety is affecting my cognitive health or time is merging.

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#2766185 24-Aug-2021 20:47

MikeB4:

Handle9:

I removed Facebook from my devices and logged out on my browser. Hopefully I can go cold turkey and shut down my account. There is so much lunacy on there.

But where will you find the truth regarding the vaccines, Chemtrails, 5G or Lizard people, Aunty Mary's Bunions or Uncle Freds Haemorrhoids?

For me Facebook is one of the ways to stay in touch with friends and family. it's a significant loss for me given it's been 3 years since I've been able to visit New Zealand.

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#2766186 24-Aug-2021 20:50

MikeB4: I think anxiety is affecting my cognitive health or time is merging.

How is your sleep? A few days of bad sleep can muddy the mind somewhat.

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#2772683 6-Sep-2021 10:20

It's been a fairly rough time since I injured my leg, and then lockdown. We lost our lead engineer over the lockdown, and replacing him has been really hard, and stressful. The timing couldn't be worse.

Yesterday though, was my best day in quite a while and I had a really nice fathers day. On top of that, I am now walking fairly normally, and went to the park in the sunshine with my kids throwing the ball around, had a fantastic meal cooked by my wife, and lots of daytime gaming.

I wouldn't say I feel turned around, but it was quite a different day. Being able to exercise is going to make a big difference I feel.

I haven't been sleeping well and waking super early, I know this isn't helping, but short of chemical assistance which I don't want to do, I am unsure how to stop myself waking up so early. Doesn't help that every morning for a week sirens have been going off etc..

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#2772770 6-Sep-2021 11:34

alasta: not spending time on Facebook. It recently struck me that I don't gain anything from it, and the braindead lynch mobs on there just create anxiety and annoyance.

Just going back to this, 100% the same and have been for some time. Which is why I went from a LOT of "friends" to ~50, including removing some family. I do not believe I need "Aqquaintance" friends, to be sharing my personal posts with (each to their own, but Im an introvert) and while I could just label them as such, it just feel disingenuous, ie my cuz has 1200 friends, the person is gregarious but nobody has 1200 real friends let alone 150 etc.

I took it one step further and deactivated FB but kept messenger. I feel happier. I still keep in touch with friends and family

But it doesn't end at FB, its every platform imo. Which is why I either remove them completely or have them locked down so I get what I want, not what Im told I want.

Im having some dep around the anti vax narrative feeding the fears of people doing a Dr Google and the outcome of that at its most disastrous or even semi bad, is saddening.

So more SM removed and feeds from YT from people I thought were logical, whose videos have comments from hardcore anti everything Cov folk.

I would like to think those that no my core to be one of empathy, love and selflessness (when I have my own health in check). I think this is why it saddens me. So many every day folk caught out by disinformation rhetoric. :-(

I'm trying to force my thought patterns (via extreme meditative practices, ie sensory dep therapy), back to positive, but the rhetoric everywhere is overwhelming due to isolation partly. The rhetoric makes me feel more and more worried for the world, which feeds my anxiety.

Quality sleep, quality food, quality exercise (dependant on ones physical capabilities) and socialising with people you feel free to show your appreciation and love to, for me are the fundamentals of feeling healthier.

Kia kaha GZ.

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#2772948 6-Sep-2021 14:58

networkn:

I haven't been sleeping well and waking super early, I know this isn't helping, but short of chemical assistance which I don't want to do, I am unsure how to stop myself waking up so early. Doesn't help that every morning for a week sirens have been going off etc..

Check out TED talks on sleep by Matt Walker, and some surrounding material by and interviews with him. I will preface that with a warning that he cites some morbidity stats that may trigger anxiety if you already struggle with anxiety and poor sleep patterns, however he has some good tips that I have found useful. Here is one link to tips for better sleep, Google will find you other sources: https://www.masterclass.com/articles/matthew-walker-on-improving-sleep-quality.

If that interests you, check out his other material. In general I think the majority of adults could do with better sleep (myself included!)

EDIT: fix link

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#2775091 9-Sep-2021 09:26

Lockdown is starting to really get to me. Combined with the fact for 3 weeks prior I was stuck at home not able to properly walk....

I am fortunate to have incredibly well behaved considerate kids, they do their schoolwork during the day and require relatively minimal interaction and direction, but we are still in the same house 24/7 together and I am finding being patient with them increasingly hard. I am not getting enough out of the house time due to injuries, weather and work and I am starting to feel fairly strained.

At the end of the day the kids want to interact with me, play games, have some fun. 100% reasonable, but I am fried and it's not fair on them. I only have another few days and hopefully, level 3 will come and I can get back to the office, and the weekend is coming up and hopefully, I can not spend the entire time working.

Thankfully, my wife is being awesome, but I still feel like a crappy parent.

I am just doing my best to explain it's normal to feel a bit under the weather when we are spending every waking minute together.

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#2775104 9-Sep-2021 09:51

@Networkn I feel for you, Auckland is in for a long haul. Exercise even if its a walk around the neighbourhood is great to keep the mind refreshed. Hydration is also very important for helping with brain fog and energy and I find I can get lapse on that during times of less activity. Kids are great and incredibly understanding when it comes to health restrictions. My kids had to deal with me in and out of wheelchairs and hospitals a lot growing up and were fantastic. They would open hours with me at the hospital and by choice. We found things that we could do together and they would often take the lead in finding things to do. Its important to be open with your kids, let them in and they can be the best medicine.

Take care, be safe. Don't sweat what you can't do and concentrate on what you can do.

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#2777617 13-Sep-2021 16:07

Feeling pretty low today.

Took my wife and eldest son to have their vaccinations last night and parked out front while they went in...all looked pretty easy and the place was quiet, so I decided to muster up the courage to get mine done - then I had a full-on panic attack and damn near broke down...just as I grabbed the door handle to the car. I simply couldn't do it.

That affected me more than I thought it would and I have been really off-kilter ever since.

My doctor has prescribed some benzodiazepine medication to get through the vaccination, but after taking one last night (as advised by the doc as a trial run to see if I will need one or two), I didn't feel any more chilled out.

Work is super stressful, I am dropping the ball on a few things too, which doesn't help - but also I have a client that just seems hell-bent on going around me to my boss and making things far, far worse, while omitting any of the good stuff (but you get that on the big jobs). My job isn't what I signed up to do and 2 years on it's even worse than it was when I first started. We are desperately understaffed and seem to be reducing our numbers and reducing our ability to service our customers more and more. This has a knock-on effect, as you can imagine, as I front the business to the majority of our NZ-based customers and some key partners' customers.

I'm finding it hard to enjoy anything right now and being stuck in lockdown in Auckland is NOT helping.

The announcement that we are staying at Level 4 is NOT helping my mood.

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#2777683 13-Sep-2021 16:27

Handsomedan:

Feeling pretty low today.

Took my wife and eldest son to have their vaccinations last night and parked out front while they went in...all looked pretty easy and the place was quiet, so I decided to muster up the courage to get mine done - then I had a full-on panic attack and damn near broke down...just as I grabbed the door handle to the car. I simply couldn't do it.

That affected me more than I thought it would and I have been really off-kilter ever since.

My doctor has prescribed some benzodiazepine medication to get through the vaccination, but after taking one last night (as advised by the doc as a trial run to see if I will need one or two), I didn't feel any more chilled out.

Work is super stressful, I am dropping the ball on a few things too, which doesn't help - but also I have a client that just seems hell-bent on going around me to my boss and making things far, far worse, while omitting any of the good stuff (but you get that on the big jobs). My job isn't what I signed up to do and 2 years on it's even worse than it was when I first started. We are desperately understaffed and seem to be reducing our numbers and reducing our ability to service our customers more and more. This has a knock-on effect, as you can imagine, as I front the business to the majority of our NZ-based customers and some key partners' customers.

I'm finding it hard to enjoy anything right now and being stuck in lockdown in Auckland is NOT helping.

The announcement that we are staying at Level 4 is NOT helping my mood.

I am sorry to hear you are you feeling this way. I can totally understand why you might be feeling off-kilter if you saved up the courage to go and have the vaccine and then had a panic attack, it can be really unsettling. There are so many feelings tied to this. I can also relate to your other scenarios around work. I don't know a huge amount of your work obviously, only what you have shared here. Is it an option for you to arrange a call with your boss, or their boss? Letting them know you are feeling exposed due to the way the behaviour by a particular client, may trigger a change or at least make them aware. Consider writing an email if you can't talk to them. As a boss, sometimes I've been oblivious that an issue is affecting staff a particular way.

My young son had a bit of a meltdown last week, and I spent some time with him, just hearing what he had to say. We decided to try and make a list of anything we can do during lockdown which makes the days a bit more tolerable. I told him to write down anything, no matter how silly, or regardless of likelihood we would approve it. Some things we couldn't do for him, but things he wanted which we normally would discourage, we did agree to. Having him write this list, and having us agree to some things, and implement them, has made a *massive* difference to his state of mind. We also had a conversation with our kids and made a list of post lockdown treats and activies. This gives them something to look forward to as well. One of the best things is his best friend lives 200m down the road. He really misses the personal interaction, so with masks on and over a fence with 10m between them, they have spend time talking over the fence in the fresh air.

I have also been trying to make an effort to skype or email with friends, and family.

It's tough going in lockdown. Humans aren't 'designed' to be incarcerated in this manner.

My mother had a great saying, which is 'one day at a time, and if that's too much, one hour at a time, and if that's too big, then 1 minute at a time'.

Do you like computer games or anything? Do you have any board games?

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#2777831 13-Sep-2021 20:24

Not in the best head space right now. My specialists have taken me of the Biologics that have been keeping me out of the wheelchair. They have also taken me off all other meds except Beta Blockers, too risky to do that.

Blood test and clinical picture have confirmed that I have drug induced Lupus Erythematosus with is definitely not ideal. The prognosis is promising as the majority of such cases resolve a few months after the offending drug is ceased but there is a very good chance my condition will grab the opportunity to flare up and land me back in the chair.

I did not have a good weekend but as usual my wife is a rock and her support is awesome. This is the last thing we needed after establishing a start up business.

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#2777838 13-Sep-2021 20:43

Handle9:

For me Facebook is one of the ways to stay in touch with friends and family. it's a significant loss for me given it's been 3 years since I've been able to visit New Zealand.

A phone update logged me out of the browser version of FB across all my devices. The only way, according to FB, was for me to download the FB app. Made the choice not to.

That was close to a year ago now. Occasionally I feel as if I might be missing out when I see things like "Just search wanaka couple and you'll see their names in the comments" and then I stop and think 'What difference would it make to me, knowing their names?" or seeing any other such rot that is on there - then I crack on and do something constructive not on FB.

I still have the messenger app on one device, which I use to keep in touch with some friends - so while I'm not completely free of "social media", I'm no longer wasting my time/life on an endless scroll of drivel.

Couldn't be happier that I did it.

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