freitasm:

Klipspringer: 

freitasm:
"which family structure is best for the upbringing of the child" is whichever family structure shows this child love. It could be a mother and father, two fathers or two mothers.

As per above. My question is about both environments (one gay and one with Mom and Dad). Everything else healthy.

Which one is better for the child?

Until you provide scientific evidence that one is better than the other I'd say both can get the same results.

Quite simply, growing up with gay parents was very difficult, and not because of prejudice from neighbors. People in our community didn’t really know what was going on in the house. To most outside observers, I was a well-raised, high-achieving child, finishing high school with straight A’s.Inside, however, I was confused. When your home life is so drastically different from everyone around you, in a fundamental way striking at basic physical relations, you grow up weird. I have no mental health disorders or biological conditions. I just grew up in a house so unusual that I was destined to exist as a social outcast.

My peers learned all the unwritten rules of decorum and body language in their homes; they understood what was appropriate to say in certain settings and what wasn’t; they learned both traditionally masculine and traditionally feminine social mechanisms.

Even if my peers’ parents were divorced, and many of them were, they still grew up seeing male and female social models. They learned, typically, how to be bold and unflinching from male figures and how to write thank-you cards and be sensitive from female figures.

I had no male figure at all to follow, and my mother and her partner were both unlike traditional fathers or traditional mothers. As a result, I had very few recognizable social cues to offer potential male or female friends, since I was neither confident nor sensitive to others. Thus I befriended people rarely and alienated others easily.

Gay people who grew up in straight parents’ households may have struggled with their sexual orientation; but when it came to the vast social universe of adaptations not dealing with sexuality—how to act, how to speak, how to behave—they had the advantage of learning at home. Many gays don’t realize what a blessing it was to be reared in a traditional home.

In terms of sexuality, gays who grew up in traditional households benefited from at least seeing some kind of functional courtship rituals around them. I had no clue how to make myself attractive to girls

Forty-one years I’d lived, and nobody—least of all gay activists—had wanted me to speak honestly about the complicated gay threads of my life.

freitasm:

Klipspringer: As per above. My question is about both environments (one gay and one with Mom and Dad). Everything else healthy.

Which one is better for the child?

Do you have the answer to this question? Is it based in scientific evidence or custom passed from generation to generation?

kyhwana2: Guess what? It's people like you that mean a child of a gay couple is different. It's YOUR fault. How about less of an bigot (almost used another word there) and oh look your first point is suddenly invalid.

Forty-one years I’d lived, and nobody—least of all gay activists—had wanted me to speak honestly about the complicated gay threads of my life.