networkn:IlDuce: I totally agree with Elpie's idea. I've recently been through same struggle, I always ultimately bowed to her will at cost of my own Happiness. She always said... If I truely loved her I'd be happy doing nothing except be at work, and then at home. No hobbies, no friends, no entertainment, etc. She said her and her family are my new family and take priority, therefore I cannot visit or talk to my family if it takes time away from her and her family.
There were never acceptable (to her) compromises though I always offered them. As your suggesting.
For example - once a month (never more), for 2 hours (never longer), I have lunch with large group of friends I'm in a bike club with. Its 2 hours return trip to attend. I'd suggest we both go. She never wanted to go. I'd say couples go, its very friendly... NO.
My compromise was we would travel together to the area, and while I'm having lunch she could shop or have lunch, or whatever, make a fun day out of it.
But she would always be like, I don't want to go to lunch, don't want to meet your friends, don't want to make the trip... So because I don't want to go neither can you otherwise your leaving me on my own on "family day".
Consequently we are no longer together.
Wow no offense, but it took me longer to read that than I would have put up with that nonsense for! ;)
When I hear stories like this it makes me want to go and hug my wife for being so awesome.
Yeah go and hug your wife.
Apparently she stops him from cleaning so she can do it. What the hell?!