ok the solution
1. Check that wifi router access point or whatever has turbo mode disabled..
2. Choose a channel that works best, 3 works best for me.
3. Enable DHCP on the access point so that it automatically assigns your pda with an ip address
4. go to the wifi section on your pda, choose the "HP IPAQ wi-fi wireless adapter
5. set everything to automatic
6. check the box that says automatically connected to non-preferred network points
7. if your Access point is set up to point to your internet connection default gateway all you need to do is connect to internet when the option box pops up and DHCP will set up the internet connection automatically and no need to set up proxies etc etc.
8. Make sure one of your PC's can obtain an ip address from dhcp and use the internet. This will show you that your network setup does work properly.
9. Download a program called pocket ping and ping one of your lan pc's to check its replying. If you are getting an intermittent connection try changing the channels on your AP until you find one where you dont get any time outs.
Thats it...
PS.. i am not responsible for any problems you might have, this is just a way that i managed to make it work...