I have read through the forums but can't find anything that fits my problem.

HP Pavilion laptop running XP SP3.

Bluetooth was installed and running from the factory but haven't used it in a while.  Now it just doesnt work. 
All I want to do is get some tunes onto my new Nokia phone.

Connections icon in the taskbar shows Bluetooth and WLAN on and working, but no Bluetooth icon?  There is a "Local Area Connection 3" which looks like the 2 computers with a red X over them - when I click on properties is comes up as "Bluetooth Lan Access Server Driver" and "Network Cable Unplugged".

Under Bluetooth properties under the Control Panel everything looks to be working and device drivers wont update saying latest already used.

I have set the settings onto visible to all but my phone will still not find the computer, or visa versa.  When I try to send a file to the phone (Right click>send to>bluetooth) I can't click bluetooth...instead I have to walk right to another option called "Other..."  Clicking that I get an error message "Bluetooth Device not found".

I feel like I am doing something stupid like not having the switch on...but I have triple checked everything that I can find.

I know its a long-shot but any clues gratefully received.