Embarrassed to say I found it. There’s a small barely noticeable indentation on the outside door handle! When you touch it, car locks.

When I park the car drivers side is close to a wall and darkish when I squeeze out, I normally just push the door closed. Never noticed it before as it looks like a design feature.

When I first got the car, used the fob button to lock and open it until someone told me that you don’t need to even have the key in your hand...in the bag was enough to open and close. Magic I thought and never took the key out of the bag again.