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#2823754 3-Dec-2021 13:23

Some judges in some parts of America are known for 'creative' sentencing and apparently the law there lets them get away with it. Wouldn't it be great if some of those do'h-do'hs could be made, under police supervision, to live in a wheelchair for a day?

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#2833788 17-Dec-2021 08:30

What a tragic loss of young innocent life in Tasmania. 5 kids were killed when a bouncy castle flew 10m into the air. The grief would be unbearable.

I think of all the times my kids have been on bouncy castles.

It sucks how fragile life is.

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#2833865 17-Dec-2021 10:03

Thinking of the parents and how they must already have bought Christmas presents for those children and are now faced with funerals instead of the joy of happy faces. Other children are in critical condition from the accident so the tally may rise.

The tragedy helped put a little perspective on my sadness at not being able to see my daughter and grandchild from Australia yet again this Christmas, but it’s becoming harder and harder to deal with the pain of being separated from family to the point that I don’t care if I die from covid, I just want to hug them again.

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#2850169 13-Jan-2022 15:06

That the dad who took his kids bush has done so again, and no-one can find them. I really hope this doesn't end badly. I can't imagine what he is thinking. He's probably not helping his case to be allowed to spend time with his kids, any stronger, and that would be a crying shame for everyone involved.

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#2850245 13-Jan-2022 16:22

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That the dad who took his kids bush has done so again, and no-one can find them. I really hope this doesn't end badly. I can't imagine what he is thinking. He's probably not helping his case to be allowed to spend time with his kids, any stronger, and that would be a crying shame for everyone involved.

The dad has custody of the children and they live with him. I wish someone would help him instead of vilifying him and adding arrest warrants to the weight of looking after three girls alone. I suspect he feels cornered and choosing to go bush with his kids although questionable is not a crime if he takes care of them. The search was instigated by family and the ex wife. Who knows what inner demons the man faces. Poor children.

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#2850252 13-Jan-2022 16:52

Eva888:

The dad has custody of the children and they live with him. I wish someone would help him instead of vilifying him and adding arrest warrants to the weight of looking after three girls alone. I suspect he feels cornered and choosing to go bush with his kids although questionable is not a crime if he takes care of them. The search was instigated by family and the ex wife. Who knows what inner demons the man faces. Poor children.

I am unsure if you felt I was vilifying him, it certainly wasn't meant to be put across like that. I am concerned for him and the kids. It's super unhelpful for him to go bush without telling anyone and causes concern and resources to be expended as a result. I don't know the full details of the case, the stuff I have read has been pretty vague on specifics. Re the not illegal, I am not certain but wasn't the last time during the school year?

I agree, it seems like he needs help, but there just isn't enough information to know if he would accept it if offered.

The situation is worrisome all around.

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#2850258 13-Jan-2022 17:13

networkn:

I am unsure if you felt I was vilifying him, it certainly wasn't meant to be put across like that. I am concerned for him and the kids. It's super unhelpful for him to go bush without telling anyone and causes concern and resources to be expended as a result. I don't know the full details of the case, the stuff I have read has been pretty vague on specifics. Re the not illegal, I am not certain but wasn't the last time during the school year?

I agree, it seems like he needs help, but there just isn't enough information to know if he would accept it if offered.

The situation is worrisome all around.

I can't help thinking that he maybe a victim of our train wreck mental health services in Aotearoa.

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#2850274 13-Jan-2022 18:27

@networkn. No not at all, I wasn’t meaning you, I meant the system and some who enjoy twisting the knife when someone is already down. It’s hard enough being a parent, but for a solo dad it's worse. Since he has custody and not the mother it makes me think there’s a lot to this story we don’t know.

I hope they are safe and some welfare organisation reaches out to help them all, but you can’t fix hurt and sadness easily.

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#2850587 14-Jan-2022 11:17

Eva888: @networkn. No not at all, I wasn’t meaning you, I meant the system and some who enjoy twisting the knife when someone is already down. It’s hard enough being a parent, but for a solo dad it's worse. Since he has custody and not the mother it makes me think there’s a lot to this story we don’t know.

I hope they are safe and some welfare organisation reaches out to help them all, but you can’t fix hurt and sadness easily.

Whilst the system *may* have failed him, and whilst he may be struggling, it needs to be said that taking his family 'bush' not once but twice (I am sure it was made clear to him how distressing it would have been for everyone after they returned the first time) without any plans on when they were coming back and where roughly they were going to be, is very poor judgement. Regardless how capable he is, things can happen outside of their control, and them being uncontactable and unlocatable means IF something happens, there could easily be a tragedy.

Even with full custody, he still needs to act in the best interest of the kids. He is jeopardizing his position as their custodian, which would make the situation even more difficult for everyone concerned.

I don't begrudge him taking the kids bush during the holidays etc, it's probably an awesome experience, but a start and approximate end date and approximate location allows for help to be obtained in the event it's required.

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#2850909 14-Jan-2022 16:10

This impacts me on many levels

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As a male, I take for granted that when I leave the house to exercise I don't even give a second thought as to my safety. It sickens me that women don't have that same freedom to go about their lives without having to worry if they will make it home safely. It shouldn't be that way!

This one hits close to home as I used to live in Ireland and I exercised along the Grand Canal regularly. The section of the canal where this attack happened is known as Fiona's way. In memory of Fiona Pender who was brutally attacked there back in the 90's.

Something has to change in the way we raise our boys so that they don't turn into predators as men?

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#2855769 24-Jan-2022 15:35

Life smacking one in the face with reality. After months of great improvement in my medical condition and being able to return to work in our businesses reality has hit me hard. Over the last four days have have been rapidly losing my ability to walk. I can now only manage short distances in considerable pain and the horrible reality they I may well be back in the wheelchair. Today it has me really down.

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#2855776 24-Jan-2022 15:47

MikeB4:

Life smacking one in the face with reality. After months of great improvement in my medical condition and being able to return to work in our businesses reality has hit me hard. Over the last four days have have been rapidly losing my ability to walk. I can now only manage short distances in considerable pain and the horrible reality they I may well be back in the wheelchair. Today it has me really down.

I'm glad you feel able to share your disappointment here, Mike. I hope that helps a tiny bit. I also hope this is a temporary setback and things will improve for you again soon. I would send some courage your way, but I think you already have a lot more than I do.

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#2855851 24-Jan-2022 19:02

MikeB4:
Life smacking one in the face with reality. After months of great improvement in my medical condition and being able to return to work in our businesses reality has hit me hard. Over the last four days have have been rapidly losing my ability to walk. I can now only manage short distances in considerable pain and the horrible reality they I may well be back in the wheelchair. Today it has me really down.

That’s a shame, but maybe it’s just your body telling you to slow down and step back. Maybe returning to business was a little too much. Stress can trigger all sorts of physical issues and gets exacerbated with the worry of losing ones abilities. Wind everything back to when you were good. No business is worth losing ones health for. All the best.

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#2855866 24-Jan-2022 21:06

Eva888:
MikeB4:
Life smacking one in the face with reality. After months of great improvement in my medical condition and being able to return to work in our businesses reality has hit me hard. Over the last four days have have been rapidly losing my ability to walk. I can now only manage short distances in considerable pain and the horrible reality they I may well be back in the wheelchair. Today it has me really down.

That’s a shame, but maybe it’s just your body telling you to slow down and step back. Maybe returning to business was a little too much. Stress can trigger all sorts of physical issues and gets exacerbated with the worry of losing ones abilities. Wind everything back to when you were good. No business is worth losing ones health for. All the best.

Thank you. Things are changing fast.

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#2855867 24-Jan-2022 21:07

Rikkitic:
MikeB4:

Life smacking one in the face with reality. After months of great improvement in my medical condition and being able to return to work in our businesses reality has hit me hard. Over the last four days have have been rapidly losing my ability to walk. I can now only manage short distances in considerable pain and the horrible reality they I may well be back in the wheelchair. Today it has me really down.

I'm glad you feel able to share your disappointment here, Mike. I hope that helps a tiny bit. I also hope this is a temporary setback and things will improve for you again soon. I would send some courage your way, but I think you already have a lot more than I do.

Thank you. I don’t think I have any courage.

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