Huge Fuss, didn't even make it a year.

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Topic # 150285 17-Jul-2014 13:34

First same sex marriage in NZ didn't last a year!.

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/news/article.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=11294678

I know not every couple will be like this, but hard to not think it wasn't just done for the free stuff they got.

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Reply # 1090690 17-Jul-2014 13:48

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Huge fuss about the wedding or the law change?

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Reply # 1090691 17-Jul-2014 13:49

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Anyway this is on my list of best herald headlines ever:

"Poem on Facebook suggests gay couple first to wed on day of law change have parted less than a year later"

They would hardly be the first married couple to give it up after a year.

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Reply # 1090694 17-Jul-2014 13:51

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I don't know (or care about) specifics, but they married as soon as they were ALLOWED to. They may have been together and wanting to marry for a long time prior.

There are plenty of marriages that don't last a year.

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Reply # 1090699 17-Jul-2014 13:54

networkn: I know not every couple will be like this, but hard to not think it wasn't just done for the free stuff they got.

It doesn't look like that is the case:

Article: Ms Vitali said at the time that she had proposed to Ms Ray a year earlier and they had an engagement party in November 2012, but had not set a date for what would then have been a civil union because of the cost.

Anyway, I think that's my quota of posts for this thread. ; ).

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Reply # 1090706 17-Jul-2014 13:58

andrewNZ: I don't know (or care about) specifics, but they married as soon as they were ALLOWED to. They may have been together and wanting to marry for a long time prior.

There are plenty of marriages that don't last a year.

That's my point, they married because they could (for the sake of it) not because they should/wanted too.

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Reply # 1090720 17-Jul-2014 14:12

I saw someone say in the 'debate' leading up to the decision to change the law that Gay Marriages would increase the divorce rate. True that.

I can understand them just wanting to be left alone - but they lapped up the publicity a year ago and have to take a bit of bad with the good I suppose.

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Reply # 1090723 17-Jul-2014 14:17

networkn:
andrewNZ: I don't know (or care about) specifics, but they married as soon as they were ALLOWED to. They may have been together and wanting to marry for a long time prior.

There are plenty of marriages that don't last a year.

That's my point, they married because they could (for the sake of it) not because they should/wanted too.

Where does it say they didn't want too? The way I see it is that they wanted too, but couldn't. But then they could so they did.

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Reply # 1090817 17-Jul-2014 15:27

And noone's questioning that the whole media frenzy is based on a poem on Facebook? Not even a cursory attempt at confirmation?

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Reply # 1090822 17-Jul-2014 15:31

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It is one case. People get married and divorce all the time. Hetero people. Get over it folks. It doesn't prove anything, good or bad.

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Reply # 1090824 17-Jul-2014 15:31

It would not need confirmation if not published. There was no need to run the story.

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Reply # 1090833 17-Jul-2014 15:37

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KiwiNZ: It would not need confirmation if not published. There was no need to run the story.

Thats the herald for you, they run out of news they write about cr@p

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Reply # 1090835 17-Jul-2014 15:38

the prizes, the holiday could have gone to a deserving couple.

why dont people make up their minds first before getting into a commitment.

marriages are to stay together "for better / for worse " , people should realize this in the first place

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Reply # 1090839 17-Jul-2014 15:40

sep11guy: the prizes, the holiday could have gone to a deserving couple.

why dont people make up their minds first before getting into a commitment.

marriages are to stay together "for better / for worse " , people should realize this in the first place

This is the point I was trying to make. People don't seem to understand that being married IS different from living together. I loved the difference, even though at the time I didn't realize how big it would be.

It would take a lot to convince me that these guys didn't just do it for the sake of it. I am not saying they didn't necessarily love each other and want to be together, but marriage (should be) a big commitment.

I guess we can be grateful no kids are involved.

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Reply # 1090848 17-Jul-2014 15:51

I am afraid to say but a lot of people dont understand the gravity of the situation / of what they are getting into and then cause divorce etc.

Divorce is not something as a quick fix solution. It should be a last resort - say for something like criminal / drug addict partner etc.

Normal couples doing this often, it kinda takes away the whole importance of the institution itself and ruins it for the younger generation who think less of it .

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Reply # 1090858 17-Jul-2014 15:58

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Hetero couples have been divorcing for decades in some countries if not centuries in others.

Nothing changes.

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