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Topic # 52874 7-Dec-2009 18:40
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Ok... so my mate found out today that she is pregnant... she is 17.
She is FREAAAKING OUT.. And has no idea to do. She doesnt know if she should tell her parents or not? becuase they are strict? she doesnt have many people to talk to.


Any way i can help her??!?


Thanks x

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  Reply # 280084 7-Dec-2009 18:44
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Parents will find out in about 9 months any way so may as well tell them

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  Reply # 280092 7-Dec-2009 19:05
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Great to have fun but now look.. tell her it's time to take responsibility for her actions and tell the folks. Rather they know now instead of some stranger coming up to the street and saying "Heard you'll be grandparents!" because it WILL happen.

Now is the time to get things sorted with the family, because from here on in, she's going to need lots of support from you, friends and most importantly family.

Look after her :-)





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  Reply # 280094 7-Dec-2009 19:10
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I got my 14 year old Girlfriend pregnant when I was 23, boy did I freak out! I moved to NZ, luckily I don't have to pay child support here.

IM JOKING.

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  Reply # 280100 7-Dec-2009 19:19
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Damager: Great to have fun but now look.. tell her it's time to take responsibility for her actions and tell the folks. Rather they know now instead of some stranger coming up to the street and saying "Heard you'll be grandparents!" because it WILL happen.

Now is the time to get things sorted with the family, because from here on in, she's going to need lots of support from you, friends and most importantly family.

Look after her :-)



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  Reply # 280103 7-Dec-2009 19:26
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macuser: I got my 14 year old Girlfriend pregnant when I was 23, boy did I freak out! I moved to NZ, luckily I don't have to pay child support here.

IM JOKING.


Were you joking about the age? you were 25

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  Reply # 280109 7-Dec-2009 19:49
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Try these guys http://www.pcs.org.nz/

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  Reply # 280112 7-Dec-2009 19:56
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your GP or school nurse(if you r at school)- would be a good start-lot of help available

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  Reply # 280131 7-Dec-2009 20:34
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what do you mean her parents are strict? will they say she has to have an abortion if she wants to live with them?

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  Reply # 280135 7-Dec-2009 20:51
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Prob most easy thing to do is tell the parents, straight up and honest, then can deal with things once they peal themselves off the roof

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  Reply # 280292 8-Dec-2009 09:49
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DjShadow: Prob most easy thing to do is tell the parents, straight up and honest, then can deal with things once they peal themselves off the roof




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My niece was 17 when she found out she was preggers to her boyfriend, but once the storm had died down, my sister and her hubby were pretty well pleased. they were more disappointed that she had fallen so early in life, but are still very supportive of her, and enjoy being grandparents.



It's still a scary thing at 17, so your friend will need as much support as possible from both friends and family - aunties and cousins,, etc



 



 



 



 




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  Reply # 280300 8-Dec-2009 09:58
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It's an epidemic! I can only remember one girl became pregnant while I was at school, and that was scandalous. I am sure there would have been many others but today it is so prevalent it is no wonder our social services are at breaking point.

That being said there is really only one option and the others above have summed it up - tell them early and be prepared for tears, lots of them.

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  Reply # 280305 8-Dec-2009 10:12
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RedBull:
Any way i can help her??!?


Yes. Be her friend no matter what. She has to make decisions now about what will happen. Remeber that they are her decisions and just support her in making them. She will need friends now to deal with the shock, she'll need friends in 6 months or so getting ready and she will need friends over the next how many years looking after the kid and dealing with work or school.

This isn't your kid or your problem, so don't get too excited, stressed and 'all omg!'. Just be calm and be her friend.

Oh, and use protection, damnit.

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  Reply # 280403 8-Dec-2009 15:04
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She should also talk with the guy who got her in that state and plan about what they BOTH want to do. They're both guilty partners in crime in this one.

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  Reply # 280421 8-Dec-2009 15:53
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book her into the pregnant classes, birth plan etc



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  Reply # 280479 8-Dec-2009 19:25
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Woah, you guys give awesome advice!
Thank you x

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